How does it work?

• First meeting on Zoom to assess your current situation and plan the steps that fit your needs
• Ongoing access to me via chat and audio support so you can ask questions at any time (you can ask day and night, I’ll answer as soon as I’m available).
• Weekly simple tasks and check-in (sent via chat)
• Regular reminders to take care of yourself in the way that truly helps you regulate (I’ll help you find it if you don’t know)
• Private podcast episodes to listen to for the information and mindset parts, so you can do it whenever fits your life (if you need a written version I can also provide it)
• Online (and printable) guidebook with the concrete tools (you can also use a journal) 

Step 1: Understanding What’s Not Working

Before we dive into solutions, we take stock of what’s happening now:

• What strategies have you tried, and why aren’t they working?
• Why traditional parenting advice are failing with your emotionally intense children
• Moving from self-judgment and guilt to self-compassion
• Key Mindset Shift: Kids do well when they can… and so do you.
• Goal: Safety, confidence, and connection.
• Tool: Value Exercise – Identifying your #1 parenting priority

Step 2: What Are Your Child’s Needs?

We are often baffled by them and are having a hard time finding the need under the behavior, we’ll work on that so you get a better idea. 

• Learning to trust your instincts as you know a lot on that topic already (through practical mindful exercises + journal prompts)
• Identifying mismatches between needs and context (e.g., school, social settings)
• Recognizing signs of kids’ burnout (and what to do about it)
• Tools: Detective Process Roadmap – Observation, photo journaling, note-taking, conversations with your child and others
• Bonus (if needed and relevant): Looking back at their childhood for patterns

Step 3: Co-Regulation & Nervous System Awareness

That’s THE thing that will help calm your family the fastest

• Why regulation doesn’t mean being calm all the time
• Understanding coregulation and why it’s essential
• Deep dive into the nervous system and trauma (big T and little t traumas) to identify where it’s showing up in your child and yourself
• Tools: Identify your existing coregulation strategies + new ways to support your child’s nervous system
• Bonus: Reacting and dealing with your child’s pain

Step 4: What Are Your Needs?

Parents often forget they have needs too. In this section, we focus on:

• Self-regulation strategies that actually work for you
• Self-care beyond the usual “bubble baths and deep breaths” (and regular reminders so you actually take the time)
• How to recognize burnout before it takes over and how to turn the table if it already has
• Tools: Realistic Self-Care Guide, Assessing Regulation Checklist (Signs of dysregulation + how to come back)
• Bonus (if relevant): Addressing siblings’ and your couple’ needs

Step 5: Letting Go - Kids Edition

• Identifying unrealistic expectations for your child
• Accommodating vs. enabling: What’s too hard right now?
• The myth of resilience, punishment, and consequences
• Tools: Simplified Parenting for Kids – Clarifying the main priorities and adjusting expectations
• Bonuses (if needed): Intro to low-demand parenting and Supporting kids with substance use/addiction

Step 6: Letting Go - Parents Edition

• How judgment (from self, family, and society) impacts you and your parenting
• Understanding the intersectionality of judgment
• Tools: Simplified Parenting for Parents – Identifying where you feel like you're failing, deciding what to let go of, and creating an exit strategy so you don’t have that feeling anymore
• Bonus: Navigating grief for the parenting journey you imagined

Step 7: Building Your Support System

• Assessing your current support system: Who/what helps? Who/what doesn’t?
• How to find the right support and let go of the wrong ones
• Tools: Systemic Diagram – Mapping out your family’s support network
• Bonus: Societal pressures and their impact on parenting

Step 8: Confidence & Connection

• The role of confidence in parenting (and how it influences your child)
• Tools: Decision-Making Made Easy, Confident Parent Journal & Cards
• Connection as the foundation of everything – Prioritizing relationships over behavior
• Tools: Connected Family Experiment, Enjoy the Present Moment Guide